In society today, it is a common assumption that attractive
people have it all going for them. They have great lives and great
personalities, everyone wants to be them. This standard of beauty is what
everyone aims for. Everyone wants to be accepted and sometimes the cost of
being accepted is losing some moral standards. This way of thinking has always
been around even in the 18th and 19th century, for both
women and men acceptance has always been something that needed to be
accomplished.
In the 18th and 19th century there was
a time very concentrated on dresses that are closely fitted to the torso and
then loose below. More in the 19th century dresses with extremely
tight torsos and extremely wide skirt. Women in these centuries were expected
to dress within their class and to dress to be accepted by their society. The
fashion in these times was geared more towards small waist, ample bosom, and
inaccessibility. To achieve these ‘norms’ these women had to wear constrictive
corsets that would cause medical issues such as curvature of the spine,
dislocations of the ribs, dizziness, and headaches. Some women would even resort to the removal
of a few ribs so that waistline stayed small. These women would cause permanent
damage to themselves just to be accepted by society and morally that is just
inhumane. People shouldn’t have to conform or deform their body just to feel
accepted but yet people did it then and are still doing it now.
In Lauren Ashwell and Rae Langton’s
essay Slaves to Fashion, they describe two different types of people one is
called a Servile Fashionista, this person is follows fashion authority to the
tee. And the Sensible Fashionista, who shops based on their personal interests.
“The Servile Fashionista would not dare to wear something absent from the list
of acceptable, fashionable apparel… the Sensible fashioinista. She follows
fashion not simple because she is told something is “in” but because she judges
it to be attractive.”(Ashwell, Langton, pg 143-144). The servile fashionista wants
so bad to be accepted that she conforms to the social ‘norms’. Because of this
she is the perfect example of someone who is willing to go completely out of
their way to fit society’s standards of beauty. While the sensible fashionista
chooses what to wear based on what looks good on her, she is still in some way
conforming to society’s outlook on beautiful people. If it looks good on her then
she will probably buy it. These are basically the two types of people in the
world. The thing about this is that a lot of the time, whether you are sensible
or servile, and your judgment can be clouded due to you wanting to fit in so
badly.
Believe it or not, there are some
benefits to both ethical and aesthetic ways of thinking. With aesthetic life
styles you feel accepted by your peers and feel that you are one of the
‘beautiful people’. To a lot of people this can be very enticing but as great
as is sounds there are a lot of downsides to an aesthetic life. You live your
life seeking the approval of others and you have a hard time finding yourself. With
ethical life styles you are living for yourself and you are looking for no one
else’s approval. The downside to this way of living is the lack of acceptance,
being different can be very difficult and because of that some people will look
down on you.
Personally for me I spent a very
long time trying to fit that social norm and trying to be accepted by society. I
was constantly changing my style to get people to like me more and it was very
difficult for me. Sometimes I was part of the beautiful people but then there
were sometimes where I wasn’t. When I was a ‘cool’ kid it turned out to be not
as fulfilling as I would have liked it to be. Unfortunately I don’t think I
could ever stop completely caring about what other people think of me but I
have been getting better. It has taken
me a while but I have, for the most part, started living my life more ethically,
I try to live more for myself now. In a perfect world everyone would live for
themselves.
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